I Constantly Hurt My Mom & I Want to Stop.

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Dear Miss Cynthia, I'm constantly hurting my mother verbally and I don't know why all I want to do is treat her with the lovely respect that she deserves. but somehow I always find a way to mess things up. I don't want to be this way anymore, but I don't know how to change. All I want to do is be a good daughter to mom. I feel like that's the one thing I have to change about myself and for some reason, I just don't know how to do it. I love my mom very much and she deserves a good daughter. -Always Hurting

Dear Always Hurting, I am not sure of your age. However, I am sure of how much you love your Mother!

#1. You ARE a good daughter due to the fact that you feel remorse when you hurt your mother verbally. #2. You ARE a good daughter because you want to change this behavior!

It seems to me that you may have a bit of a temper, or maybe when you are having a bad day you take it out on your mom! It also can be due to the fact that you witnessed your mom being verbally abused during your childhood.

The GREAT news is that none of that matters!

What you need to do is catch your self in the act and STOP! it will not be easy at first. it is going to take practice. It is the same as any other bad habit we try to break!

At first, you will catch yourself almost at the end of the confrontation and as time goes on you will catch yourself sooner and sooner until the point comes when you will feel this anger coming on and will stop it before it even happens.

Be patient with yourself! Remember, whatever you practice, 'YOU GET BETTER AT IT!" With LOVE as your guide, you will always win!