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Dear Miss Cynthia,
I have a three-year-old who will be four in less than 3 months. I am concerned about the behavior problems that he is and has been exhibiting. For the last few months or so he has begun to constantly rebel against me and his father. Anytime we tell him “no", he walks around slapping everything he sees. Within the last 2 weeks, we have noticed him walking up several times during the night kicking and slapping at everything around him. Even after comforting him he still continues to fight us even out in public. Our child has always had a temper such as banging his head on the floor and wall when he would get mad or in trouble. My husband and I are very patient people who never get loud or argue; so we don't know where he is picking this behavior up. He is extremely hyper and has been since birth. Is this a sign of something? Does he need medication? Could you please tell me your advice on what we should do?
-Concerned Mom
Dear Concerned Mom,
Over the past 30 years, I have found it common that males at or about 4 years of age dive deep into TERRIBLE TWOS also accompanied by nightmares! That can explain the waking up through the night several times. In my experience, this has always passed. What concerns me is that you used the words "even after we comfort him". Soothing his inappropriate behavior is not enough anymore. You are wonderful, patient, kind parents, and he is taking full advantage of the situation! He does not need drugs, it is only a sign he has been overindulged by wonderful parents. I would like to discuss a behavior modification plan with you which can be helpful in resolving the problems with your son. Please write back and leave a phone number and time in which you can be reached. Remember, everything will be kept 100% confidential!
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